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14 Simple Ways on How to Start a Conversation with a Girl

Not sure how to start a conversation with a girl you admire or love? Follow these 14 simple interesting tips! You’ll be close to her in no time.

When you really love a girl, it’s disheartening to start these initial conversations with her. If you’ve been watching her for a while and you have a serious crush, even the thought of talking to her makes your mouth go dry. If you do not know how to start a conversation with a girl you love, follow these 14 steps to have her on your side.

The last thing you want is for her to see you as this gibbering wreck of a guy. You want to come across as cool, calm, and confident, and really impress her with your conversation.

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But you are afraid that if you pluck up the courage to talk to her, you’ll only end up messing it up. Coming across as creepy, too nervous, or even overly compensating and making her think you’re super arrogant are all dangers when it comes to approaching a girl. If you are not fully prepared, you might miss your chance before you even really got one!

14 Simple Ways on How to Start a Conversation with a Girl

#1 Smile.
When you approach the girl you like, make sure you smile. If you feel very nervous, smiling helps you to calm down. Also, you just look weird if you approach her all goggly-eyed and sweaty! A big smile makes you look friendly and approachable, so go with that!

#2 Decide on your opening move.
How you physically greet her is also important. Are you going for a handshake (bit formal), a hug (strange if you don’t know her), or a kiss on the cheeks (very French)? However you decide to greet her, practice it out loud in front of the mirror a few times to make sure you have it down. If she doesn’t know you, simply introduce yourself. If you already know each other, just ask her how her day is going.

#3 Be casual.
Try to stay as relaxed as you can *we know this is easier said than done!*. You don’t want to come across as needy, intense, or desperate. Keeping it casual suggests to her that you are laid back and comfortable in your own skin.

#4 Have some topics.
Before you approach her have some conversational topics in mind. Don’t just start a conversation empty-handed. If you already have several things you can talk to her about in your head, the conversation is more likely to flow.

#5 Ask her how she is doing.
Simply asking her how she is doing shows that you are interested and care. Sometimes it really can be as simple as that. So, try asking how she’s doing cos it really helps.

#6 Talk about shared experiences.
Are you at the same school, do you take the same bus, did you volunteer on a project together? If you know you’ve got something in common, talk about it. It’s safe, neutral ground, and it will be easy to keep the conversation going.

#7 Ask a question about a class or work.
If you go to school or college together, this is a great starting point. You could ask her about some work you’ve been assigned, “How are you getting on with your English paper?”. Or, talk about an eccentric teacher or funny incident that happened at school.

#8 Ask lots of questions.
Asking lots of friendly questions keeps the conversation flowing nicely. They also show you are interested in her. Just give her time to answer and the opportunity to ask you questions back. This tells you if she’s interested in you too.

#9 Compliment her.
Of course, it’s important to remember you like the girl and so you don’t want to be friend zoned. Make sure you compliment her to let her know you are being flirtatious.

[Read: Reasons Some Women Pull Away as You Get Closer]

#10 Be aware of your body language. You body language is also important. Stay open and relaxed, and try not to fold your arms, shrug, or frown!

#11 Be confident.
Girls love a confident man. So, when you decide to approach her, make sure you are in a confident frame of mind. What have you got to lose, after all?

#12 Make eye contact.
Make lots of eye contact with her also shows you are interested in her. Know the difference between flirty eye contact and weird staring!

#13 Listen!
When you are nervous, you often have lots of great questions and are so afraid of the conversation dying out that you forget to listen to the answers! Make sure you give her time to respond and listen to what she says, then ask her more about that.

#14 Tell a joke. Humor is a great way to impress a girl. So, if you are a funny guy, make sure you use it!

While it’s hard to guarantee that all of these tips will work 100% of the time, they’re definitely a good place to start.
You also might want to read our article on African Dating Tips, and do share your thought with us on the comment section on how these tips have helped you.

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