Choosing the perfect man is necessary to lead a happy married life. Here’s how you can select your perfect guy.
There are many factors that one needs to consider when choosing a life partner. The most important aspect is to consider things that are crucial to you.
What if I was to tell you that the secret to finding the perfect man really has nothing to do with the guy – what kind of job he wants, what kind of humor he has, what he looks like, or how he treats others. What if I was to tell you that the secret to finding that perfect man for you is you?
As an adult, we had our share of relationships, good and bad, and each relationship helped us grow, learn about ourselves and learn to give and receive love.
Choosing The Perfect Man: 5 Tips to know
1. Get a real life.
The most important thing is to be perfect yourself. Finding the right man will not turn you into a better woman than you are already. If you are lazy and self-centered, finding a generous hard working fellow is not going to transform you. If you are boring and a one-dimensional person, finding an intellectually challenging man is not going to change who you are. Learn how to be interesting, kind, caring, and unselfish. Model yourself after women you admire. Work hard at changing your character defects.
Learn to be happy with yourself, first. No man, no matter how right is going to make you happy. You will only be happy in your new relationship if you are happy inside first.
2. Know what you are looking for in a man. Here are some qualities to look for in a healthy relationship: common values and similar culture, ability to forgive and be forgiven, ability to be challenged and confronted without defensiveness, desire to raise children, common goals.
Ask yourself, Why do I want this relationship? Choose wisely. What looks good now may cause heartache later. What you do now does matter.
3. Rise above your past mistakes.
You are not doomed to an endless series of losers. You are half-way to Mr. RIGHT by seeing what you have done wrong in the past. You cannot correct something you did not realize was stupid. Congratulations! You are starting to develop humility, which is a good trait. Just don’t let it turn into self-pity and low self-esteem. We all fail and make mistakes.
4. Don’t Expect someone perfect. No one is going to be everything you have ever dreamed of. Give the guy a break. You already know that you are not Ms. Perfect. He will make mistakes too. Relax a little and don’t be too picky. Allow for human frailty. Look beyond physical attractiveness.
5. Be patient. Rome was not built in a day. It may take some time to discover what appeals to you and why. You may make a few friends, and even break a heart or two. You may get hurt. Keep at it. There are good men out there. You simply need to know where to look.
This tips would go a long way in helping you choose the perfect man you desire, although not everyone or none is completely perfect.
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