African Dating Tips

Dozens of tips for Johannesburg singles to be happy

In Johannesburg (South Africa) where i come from, and even other parts of the world, i bet there are thousands of singles, those who have once been in a relationship, or who wish to join the train soon, are they really happy? Traditionally, people think singles as it stands are incomplete sets of people, they need someone to make them complete (happy), but seriously my dear, this write-up will list several dating tips on how singles can be happy.

Happy Singles

Happy Singles

Dozens of tips for Johannesburg singles to be happy

Have you recently broken up with a significant other and find yourself struggling to be happy? Or maybe you’ve been single too long and feel like you’ll never be happy until you find your soulmate? It might seem like you’ll never be able to be happy and single, but it’s really not so different than being happy under any other conditions. By finding out exactly what you’re passionate about and cultivating its presence in your life as much as possible, you can learn to be happy in a way that doesn’t depend on your relationship status. Keep reading to learn more about how to be happy and single.

  • Find out what truly makes you happy

If you have recently gotten out of a relationship, or are simply not currently interested in anyone, then try not to look at this stage in your life as a negative thing. Being single gives you a wonderful opportunity to figure out what truly makes you happy and gives you the perfect chance to get to know yourself better.

Being single grants you the time and freedom to do whatever you want on your own schedule and allows you to put your needs, desires, and ambitions above all others, a good  reason from Psychology Today.

Not being in a relationship will help you realize and understand that your happiness does not have to depend on someone else’s presence. You need to be able to be happy alone first, and love yourself in order to give your love to someone else and have a successful relationship.

If you don’t know what is going to make you happy, how can you expect someone else to? You need to know and experience what real love and happiness is like by yourself before you commit to loving someone else.

It might be scary at first but here are some ideas that can help you to feel more positive about being alone.

Get to know yourself by spending some time alone in solitude. Do something that will help you relax and focus on your mind, body and soul. Go shopping, take a bath, listen to some new music, have a glass of wine, watch a marathon of your favorite show and don’t feel guilty about treating yourself or making yourself a top priority.

  • Consider the health benefits of being single.

Being single is associated with a decreased risk of adverse health effects from dysfunctional marriages or intimate relationships. Some studies have shown that bad relationships can actually make you physically unhealthy. But singles are more likely to be fit and healthy. Singles also tend to go to the gym more, eat better, and have lower stress levels.

  • Single people tend to be thinner than people who are in a relationship. One study found that people gain an average of 14 or more pounds after starting a relationship.
  • Single people also get more, good quality sleep than people who share a bed with a partner.
  • Single women have better mental health than married women, especially married women who have children

 

  • Give Yourself a Fresh Start

Sometimes we get stuck in monotonous schedules and our days feel like they merge together into a week that’s exactly the same as the last. Maybe you have forgotten what it’s like to feel happy because you simply aren’t stimulated with what’s happening in your life. Perhaps it’s time to write a list of all the fun things and activities that make you smile.

Write down new places you would like to explore, games you would like to learn how to play, or books you would like to read. Once you start making this list, you will look forward to trying these new things and you will start to get excited about the possibilities available to you.

Sometimes all it takes to feel refreshed and happy is to change something simple out of your daily routine. Maybe it’s time to rearrange your furniture or redecorate your house.

By changing something in your surroundings, it will help you start fresh and prevent you from feeling like your life is stagnant. You can also look at moving, rearranging or redecorating your house to create an instant fresh start or renewal of your current stage in life.

Plan a cleaning or de-cluttering session. Get rid of things that are collecting dust or that you have been hanging on to because you’ll feel guilty if you throw them out. Remember that it’s time to start living for you and no one else. Only keep things that make you happy, are important, useful and meaningful to you.

  • Do things alone.

This sounds obvious, I know, but a lot of people are afraid to do things by themselves. Go to the movies. Have a meal. Go shopping. It’s going to be okay…I promise, you will survive.

  • Don’t be cynical.

This one is hard because there are times that feel hopeless. There are times when you will be disappointed. There are times when you will feel lonely. Don’t lose hope — don’t create a self-fulfilling prophecy that you don’t want to become true.

  • Travel alone.

It’s weird…at first. But once the weirdness washes away, it becomes a freedom you don’t often have. You get to be on your own schedule and have the chance to spend as much time as you want doing whatever it is that you want to do — all while being in a new place. Explore! Create an adventure!

  • Develop self-awareness.

I’m naturally a big proponent of therapy (you can take the girl out of psychology but you can’t take the psychology out of the girl) so use it to figure out what you want. What are your dreams, goals, desires, setbacks? Explore the little nervous things you do and why you do them (I admit, I will keep talking and say too much because I’m otherwise afraid to let myself be vulnerable with another person — but I’m aware of it and I’m working on it). Explore all of it in a safe place. Who are you and what do you need to feel complete? You cannot expect that to come from another person — that’s all on you. Own it.

  • Foster other relationships.

Family and friends are there through it all. Relationships naturally ebb and flow over time so enjoy the time you have. Offer your undivided attention to others when you are with them (which is a good rule in general — single or otherwise).

  • Learn to feel.

  • Meet new people.

I am admittedly awful at this. Meet people without the intention of meeting a potential partner too. Just talk to different people; see what others have to say, and step outside of your comfort zone. Drop the self-consciousness and present your honest self (I’m always working on this part).

  • Be honest with yourself.

Did you meet someone you really liked? Did you just accidentally like a Facebook photo from 2007 while you were snooping? Yeah, these things happen — and they will always feel embarrassing. You can either play games with yourself or you can be honest — it’s your move. What do you have to lose if you tell someone you’re interested in them? Wouldn’t you like to hear it? Yes, it’s terrifying, but it’s better than hoping they’ll eventually realize that you’re interested and decide to make the first move him or herself. It can be terribly embarrassing and you may feel entirely silly but if it’s genuine to you — say it. Drop the games, you’re an adult. Be brave!

You should also extend this honesty to online dating, to be able to Meet New Sugar mummy, daddy & baby. And relationships in general, too. Practice. It will help strengthen your other relationships and further your own self-awareness.

  • Be weird.

On purpose. Do something you wouldn’t normally do — like karaoke (extra points if you do it while sober. Again, I promise you’ll survive — if I can do it, so can you). Be weird, but be safe.

  • Make mistakes.

Live your life, regardless of whether or not you are part of a couple. You will undoubtedly screw up at times, but it’s okay to live your life for you. You shouldn’t have to wait for another person to be able to make moves. Take yourself out on Valentine’s Day or go out for drinks with friends just because. Try out something new. If it doesn’t work out, it’s still an experience to learn from!

In conclusion, i would rather to prefer a friend to be among the happy singles than be in a monstrous relationship filled with excess false claims and domestic violence.

Are you single? are you single yet happy or sad? did you find our Dating tips worth it? please us the comment box below to share your view, it will awesomely boost our writing capacity in other to do more in our field of spreading love via articles on LoveMustLead.com

 

About the author

Exodus

Esther Odion is a seasoned writer, who writes according to what happens around her, a lover, a soon-to-be mother, friend of all, beautiful, loving and kind and above all preaching love, because Love Must Lead.

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