You want South African women to chase you like you’re the only man on earth? These 15 tips will help you become a chick-magnet overnight.
Women are complex creatures at times. Sometimes it is difficult to figure out how to make girls chase you. Once you’ve got the hang of it, it’s a piece of cake. It’s just getting to that stage that’s the hard bit.
Ultimately, when you want women interested in you, it all comes down to desire. Desire is the difference between her telling you she’s always “busy” whenever you want to hang out, and her constantly asking you when you’re next free.
Annoyingly, desire can be a hard thing to harness until you show her you’re worth the chase. If you show her you’re different from the other guys who showed up before you, then you have the beginnings of impressing her and capturing her interest.
Sometimes it feels like you fight a losing battle. You think you do everything right, and you try really hard to impress her, but there’s something blocking your efforts. You managed to get womens’ attention before, but it never lasts. Then, they move on to other dudes.
Is there one little thing that stands between you and a sea of women vying for your attention? It’s time to crack the code on how to make girls chase you.
15 Secrets to Make South African Women Chase You
1. Play a little hard to get.
When you act a little bit more difficult to figure out than most guys, the chances are she’ll want you more. It’s just human nature to go after what we can’t have. So, if you always offer yourself up to her there will be no desire to win you over. Be careful not to completely ignore her, or else she’ll get bored and move on to someone else.
2. Become friends with her friends.
If you’re considerate and charming around her friends, they’ll absolutely love you. And it’s a known fact that if a girl’s friends thinks you’re great and can’t stop talking about you, then she thinks you’re great too. Her friends know her incredibly well. Once you’re in with her friends, you’re in for good.
3. Don’t be constantly available at all times.
Make sure to make an effort to spend time with her, but don’t be at her beck and call 24/7. If she senses you always cancel your plans, or blow your friends off just to spend time with her every day she’ll start to think that you’re desperate. Desperation is the sign of someone that no one else is interested in.
4. Make sure you know what you’re doing in bed.
There’s nothing worse than chasing a guy for ages, getting to know him, and having sexual chemistry—only for him to then turn out to be awful in bed. Practice, do your research, listen to what her body language tells you, and don’t be a selfish lover. A great way to make a girl stay interested is if you impress her between the sheets.
5. Be devilishly charming. Charm is one of the most effective tools in your arsenal, so use it wisely. It’s one of the best, quickest ways to get into, and stay in, a girl’s mind. If you come across suave and interesting you stand out from the crowd, and she won’t be able to get enough.
6. Make yourself physically irresistible.
Looks aren’t the most important thing when dating, but women won’t chase after men that look like they don’t put effort in. If you want to be desirable, look the part. Keep your body hygiene in check, get a regular haircut, do a bit of exercise every week, and wear clean clothes when you go on a date.
7. Be kind, always.
One of the best ways to attract women is to be as kind and caring as possible. Girls are incredibly attracted to men who are compassionate toward others, keep a positive outlook, and stay good-natured. If you’re not mean or callous toward her, she soon sees the softer side of you. No woman can resist a man that’s warm-hearted.
8. Be confident!
This is an obvious one when it comes to knowing how to make girls chase you, but it still needs to be said. If you show confidence in everything you do, in who you are, how you react to others, and what you stand for, you’ll attract so many women you won’t know what to do with yourself.
Girls are helplessly attracted to guys who know exactly who they are and where their interests lie. She respects you more for your conviction, than if you just bow down to anyone and anything.
9. Treat her with respect.
In this mad dating world we live in, it can be difficult to find a man who truly respects you, so make sure you separate yourself from the rest by showering her in consideration. Give her space when she needs it, don’t cross boundaries that she’s specified, never demean her, and don’t be aggressive if she’s not doing exactly what you want.
10. Be loyal and trustworthy.
Show her that you’ll be open with her and can be trusted with her feelings. Even if you’re not ready to settle down into a relationship with one person, if you start acting like a player around her she’ll take the hint and ditch you first. If you’re someone she relies on to be honest, you’ll become someone she can’t easily replace.
11. Don’t come across desperate.
Do not be that needy dude that never gets the hint, tries too hard, and keeps texting even when she doesn’t respond. If she doesn’t respond to your calls then move on and find someone else. Don’t cling.
There is no bigger turnoff than a man filled with desperation, because it reeks of insecurity. When you seem like you could walk away from her at any moment, it only makes her want you more. [Read: How to Deal with a Domestic Violence while dating an African
12. Don’t hassle her.
If you haven’t heard from her in a while, don’t send a flurry of text messages asking where she is or why haven’t you heard from her. Just leave it, and wait for her to come to you. When you come across as pushy or needy, she bails almost immediately. No one wants to date someone who can’t be left alone for five minutes.
13. Be emotionally available.
Try to balance having your own life but available when she needs help. When she needs someone to talk to, somebody to give advice, or a shoulder to cry on, be there for her. Don’t respond by telling her that it’s not that important, or you have better things to do. If she sees you as the kind of man who genuinely cares, she’ll never forget it. [Read: 7 ways to fix broken relationship easily
14. Don’t let everything get to you.
A guy who gets irritated or frustrated easily is a type women generally avoid. The more you seem affected by things, the less desirable you are to her.
Instead of letting circumstances, attitudes, or rejection annoy you, let them roll off your back. If she sees you’re a chilled out guy, she’s more inclined to spend time with you.
15. Inspire her mind.
One of the sexiest things is intellectual stimulation. Don’t be afraid to show your smart side. If you engage her in a debate, interesting issue, or deep conversation, she’ll beg for more. Especially if you engage in a conversation about something she’s interested in.